Dr. Tom Murray | Triad Sexpert | Greensboro Sex Therapist | Marriage Counselor

Sex Therapy and Couples Counseling for Greensboro, Winston-Salem, and High Point

Providing sex therapy, couples counseling, individual counseling and psychotherapy, for individual and couples experiencing intimacy and/or sexual problems. Services also include transgender health evaluations, supervision, and forensic services.

Couples & Marriage Counseling

Relationship 2.0

Feeling exhausted and full of resentment or, worse, indifference with your relationship? Have years gone by with too little intimacy and connection? Are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (i.e., criticism, contempt, stonewalling and defensiveness) stampeding through your relationship? Feeling like roommates with very little communication between you?

Then it's time for Relationship 2.0!



Dr. Murray's bring 15+ years of supporting straight, gay and lesbian partners towards creating Relationship 2.0. His approach is highly informed by the John Gottman, PhD Sound Relationship House model. Gottman’s work is widely recognized as a powerful, research-based intervention to support couples of all types. Dr. Gottman authored Seven Principles for Making Marriages Work, The Relationship Cure, 10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, among others. Dr. Murray is the final stage of the Gottman method certification. 

Couples counseling often fails because therapists treat couples work like they do individual counseling. I structure sessions based on good assessment data so that your vital issues are addressed and SOON! Clients often remark that I’m a “tell you how it is” therapist. I bring a realness to sessions by ensuring that the voice of the relationship is heard. I want to get you to where you want to go as quickly as possible. That’s what makes me unique!
— Dr. Tom Murray

There are three phases to the Gottman Method. The first phase is the assessment, which includes a 90-minute initial assessment that includes both partners, and a separate 45-minute session with each partner (90-minutes). Second phase is a 90-minute feedback session. The third phase is treatment, which may take weeks or months. The couple must complete an online assessment-the Gottman Relationship CHECKUP-prior to the individual session. There is a separate charge for this assessment paid directly to the Gottman Institute. There is no additional fee for Dr. Murray's interpretation of test results.

While Dr. Murray has taken training in the Gottman Method Couples Therapy, you should know that Dr. Murray is completely independent in providing you with clinical services and he alone is fully responsible for those services. The Gottman Institute or its agents have no responsibility for the services you receive.

When you are lonely, I will show up on your doorstep with my heart in a basket. I will whisper ‘I love you’ until your loneliness grows wings and flies off like a silken bird.
— Eileen Spinelli's When You Are Happy (2006)

Special Consideration

Couples counseling works best when each partner wants the relationship to last (i.e., that is that they want to stay in the relationship and to heal and recovery from past pain while building a future together). When one partner is "leaning out" and the other is "leaning in," couples work may not be the best option. Instead, a process of Discernment Counseling is highly suggested. You might find the following resources useful during your discernment process:

Leaning Out Partner: Should I try to work it out: A guidebook for individuals and couples at the crossroads of divorce.

Leaning In Partner: The divorce remedy: The proven 7-step program for saving your marriage

Please talk to Dr. Murray about this option if you believe it is best for your situation.

Insurance and Fees


For a list of insurance carriers contracted with Dr. Murray or how to use your Out of Network benefits (if applicable), please review our Insurance page.


According to LegalZoom, the average cost of a contested divorce is $15,000-30,000! Couple counseling requires extensive time and financial commitment; yet, the counseling fees are much less than the emotional and financial toll of divorce. 

Fees for service are expected at the end of each session. Cash, Check and credit card are acceptable forms of payment.  

  • Initial session (90 minutes): $240.00. 
  • Follow up appointments for individuals (45-50 minutes): $140.00
  • Late Cancellation fee for individuals: $100.00
  • Follow-up appointments for couples (90 minutes): $200.00
  • Late Cancellation fee for 90-minute sessions: $140.00
  • No Show Fee is equal to the amount for the missed session.


  • Start-up package (First and Second Phase; 15% Discount): $550.00
  • Marathon Sessions: 4-hours $675

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